Blogs | Blogs en-us Kayden Kross Blog: How to Blowjob | BLOG Tue, 09 May 2017 00:06:00 CDT

After a great number of years during which I was asked a great number of variations of the question, how do you suck a dick, I finally sat down and made something that will hopefully point a few wayward souls in the right direction in's "How to Blowjob."

The first blowjob I ever gave was empirically terrible. It was in the back of a Honda civic after hours in a business park parking lot. He was 19.

A long-term boyfriend with sad eyes and a clear inclination towards porn viewership, he’d made it nearly a tradition by then that after dark (and before curfew) he’d find a place in some poorly lit part of our small town and turn up the cabin light before folding his hand... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Eva Lovia in Sun-Lit | BLOG Wed, 12 Apr 2017 17:16:00 CDT

Eva Lovia's scene with Manuel Ferrara in "Sun-Lit" released today on

Kayden Kross Blog: Sun-Lit | BLOG Sat, 18 Mar 2017 03:05:00 CDT Sex in the sunlight.

Kayden Kross Blog: On the Relaunch of | BLOG Mon, 06 Mar 2017 09:03:00 CST

Kayden Kross Blog: A Bit About Katrina Jade | BLOG Sun, 29 Jan 2017 14:23:00 CST I wrote about Katrina well before creating the project "Sacrosanct" around her for TRENCHCOATx, before she won XBIZ Female Performer of the Year, and before I was really aware of how open she was publicly about her sexual life, but once these three rather awesome things converged, it seemed a great time to finally get the writing out there.

Please check out Katrina Jade performing for the first time with her partner alongside her in's "Sacrosanct." /> ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Oh, Putin You Need TRENCHCOATx | BLOG Thu, 30 Jul 2015 07:29:00 CDT

Kayden Kross

Oh, Putin. I come to you today because you are Russia, as much as anyone in recent memory could be said to have been “Russia”, collectively, as a people, as an idea, as a vast and deeply interesting place. After all, what is Russia in our hearts and minds if not a brute force who handles bears and tigers with bare hands, takes winters on shirtless, and walks coolly away from all manner of things that are only seen in backgrounds as they alight in pillars of flame and smoke, detonated. Russia is a badass in a tailored suit.

So, Putin, I speak to you as I speak to Russia as a people. And, having done vast amounts of non-predatory, non-ins... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Why Porn Needs Carter Cruise | BLOG Thu, 23 Jul 2015 13:14:00 CDT Carter Cruise

AVN’s Best New Starlet award is reserved for the performer whose combination of beauty, sex, nature, and star factor is most apparent over the course of her first year working in the adult industry. This year’s running was considered tight. A parade of stunningly pretty women with vast sexualities and good humor entered porn last year. So the question on everyone’s minds at the AVN awards show this past January was, “Who will stand out?”

stood out.

An Eng... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: About a Boob | BLOG Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:15:00 CDT

A small amount of feelings I have regarding my boobs:

In seventh grade when girls started getting them I did not. Or, I did not get them according to my expectations. Boobs. Magazines and kid’s shows had me convinced that I would have bloomed to a full and upright c-cup in time for high school, at least. Because all high schoolers had c-cups, and also incredibly complex male-female relations and sometimes very deep running secrets. It would take getting to the other side of high school to realize that all of this was merely angst and padded bras.

In sixth grade my de facto best friends were a pair of twin boys whom I felt privileged for having the ability to tell apart, chief among our circle of friends. Someone... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Love is A Burning Thing | BLOG Sat, 08 Feb 2014 09:23:00 CST Birth: it’s like this, see. Improbable. It’s one of those things that you don’t quite think of at the time that you lock it in. I mean conception, of course. I mean the thoughts before the sex that might lead to it. One thinks, briefly, of the consequences of a pregnancy, maybe. There seems to be less and less thought in it as time goes on. Thoughts re: pregnancy tend to only go so far as that would be good or that would be bad. It’s a general blanket cast over the course of ones ideal lifetime that is taken into consideration. A sort of, What I am doing for the next 18 years? Am I busy? The lesser details of the consequences of such are rarely considered, though. For example, no one seems to zoom in on the fact that in the event of a desired pregnancy, even that must end. Somehow, some way, all pregnancies must end.

Birth is o... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: "An excerpt from one of those books I think I'm writing" | BLOG Wed, 11 Sep 2013 06:29:00 CDT Safewords are great things in theory. The problem is one never hears of anyone using them successfully. Naturally, plenty of visual imagery has been gathered re: their (the safewords’) surrounding circumstances. The visuals are morbidly beautiful, lascivious, taboo things; things involving latex and pain. Slicked back hair and red lipstick. One hears of dungeons and chains and whips and cages and the thing about this culture—this deviant subculture in every sense of the word—is the conspicuous creation of and equally conspicuous lack of implementation of the Safeword. No one cries Uncle.

In the case of most emergency tools, it seems their true value is only realized in the aftermath of a particularly real emergency, at which time everyone gathers around to discuss; to consider, for example, how that fire extinguisher would have been a gr... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Salt | BLOG Tue, 03 Sep 2013 07:43:00 CDT Two weeks ago the fish became a diva and it’s been all downhill since. Not a big deal of a fish even. Just a betta—a Siamese fighting fish with one color in a bowl and his color is red like real blood pouring fresh out of cuts and his fins are long and flowing and where they end the color becomes darker as if the blood has cooled. He does not look so much pretty as he does angry, heated up, but you’d have to give him that too, with those fins. That he’s pretty. He flares them wide at me when I lean in to stare.

His bowl is traditionally round, like the goldfish bowls. Like you see in movies. When I stare through the width of it the bend of the glass blows him up to so many times his size and I can see each of his scales and his small hard eyes, staring back. He puffs his face like a Chinese dragon.

There is a dog too, and tw... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: What to Expect When You're Expecting a Porn Career | BLOG Fri, 16 Aug 2013 09:22:00 CDT Kayden Kross Advice

I hate to see girls come into porn anymore. It’s not a jealousy thing, I swear. I wouldn’t trade places with them. I first signed as a solo model for Hustler at the AVN show in January of 2006. I remember it was overwhelming. Cliches are generally tired descriptions because they’re accurate and this was the closest I’d ever been to what you’d call a sea of a people; every man with a camera like some cell floating alongside the next camera-head and the next and the next. The crowd that year was like a great undulating surface of thinning hair and baseball caps beneath which we may never know the depths. They thought I was someone because I stood behin... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: I don't blog much anymore | BLOG Mon, 22 Apr 2013 13:21:00 CDT Because the work involved in getting to the point these days is so intensive that I choose not to, ever. Get to the point. The places there are to post a good rant these days. In a hot bright flash I feel I could hit you with all the clarity in the world. All of the why. And then I sit down and when it comes to the end I keep thinking there’s a better way to arrive there. More punch in a better closing sentence somewhere. I think, I’ll never post this shit. And then a new thing happens along and inspires a new rant that again there is not the time in the world to properly detail. We are so stuck in our own heads. The best you can do to get in another’s is catalog their behavior well enough to maybe predict what’s next. But by then you’re already trying to amend them. To contribute your external little bit on self improvement. Because I love you... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: --but about Measure B | BLOG Fri, 28 Sep 2012 15:12:00 CDT —but about Measure B.

If you’re reading this you should care. If you’re reading this you should care because I am a pornstar and you are reading one of my blog pages. You’ve probably whacked it to me. If this is not the case, please change that. I’ll wait.

And I’ll assume from here forward that anyone reading has whacked it to my porn, or at least taken a quick glimpse, and not whacked it. If the non-whacking is my fault, I apologize. Beside the point though, the whacking. Please notice—in a quick mental shuffle through the Rolodex of my porn—the conspicuous absence of condoms in my scenes. They are not there. I did condom scenes in my first movie, and that turned out to suck major monkey balls. The added friction the condoms caused over the course of the shoot was ridiculous. The condoms were not a b... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: The sex test | BLOG Thu, 13 Sep 2012 00:03:00 CDT So I spent my day at the DMV yesterday. I’m talking about a big chunk of my waking hours here. I had to renew my license and I didn’t make an appt. I just walked in there with a fat book and a full battery on my phone and some bottled provisions. There was an hour-long line just to pull a ticket. What in god’s name does that say? Ominous, right?

Anyway I get this ticket and I sit down and at some point I realize that this drivers license renewal business is going to require me to take a written test. This is no problem though, because I have hours. There is time to kill. So I download this app that suits exactly my purposes, because of course there’s an app for it, and I start flipping through these test questions.

Heres the thing about DMV driving test questions: pretty early on you realize why there are so many accidents. You know... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: I hate to ask | BLOG Mon, 03 Sep 2012 16:27:00 CDT Kayden Kross Gets Eaten Out

I had to ask my aunt what “eat out” was. Middle School had finally happened to me and in this new environment the phrase had been appearing with increasing frequency and convolution. My first impulse had been to wait. The meaning would come, surely, because the natural form of language in its course will usually allow the listener to tease it out from context. I knew this, because I was socially maladjusted and liked things that people who knew how to be around other people don’t like—poetry and medical texts and homework, mostly, but there was more (pet lizard, namely, though unrelated to the point I’m digging at). The things in my... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: I started this and am not finishing it, because. | BLOG Fri, 13 Jul 2012 14:08:00 CDT I’ve rediscovered girls in a life changing way. It started as something behind the scenes, like a tugging, a program somewhere deeply buried cycling out of latency and into full-blown pervedom. It came slowly at first. An intangible. I began to notice there was something that would tighten the skin along my spine in the way a pretty girl would tighten around my fingers when I’d slide them spit-covered into her and press the pads against the g-spot and move. The way she’d inhale and make quiet girl sounds and the air would hit the back of her throat. Something about the way she’d fuck back the and the flesh would swell and squeeze.

Stoya is so pale that she is bubblegum pink in the creases. Her asshole is a strong ridge against the tongue and her scent is light, like water. She clenches with two soft bursts and then one long mean one when she comes. On th... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: The Thin Red Line | BLOG Thu, 14 Jun 2012 17:54:00 CDT I wish a blog talking about how I rode my horse today could be an original angle for me. I would write the shit out of that. But it’s not. Ballpark guess says at least fifty percent of my blogs feature my horse in some way large or small. And that’s taking it easy, because more than fifty percent of my days feature him.

I rode him today through Griffith Park and I noticed a coyote following us. Except he wasn’t so much following as creeping, from which I think any reasonable person would agree it would follow that he was not so much tagging along as hunting us. This dawned on me somewhere overlooking the five freeway, high up. The weather is nicer there and the ambient light from the city doesn’t quite hit it at night. Everyone down and around Burbank felt like there had been some small victory of the underdog when a mountain lion was spotted up there la... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: A Dissertation of Sorts | BLOG Sat, 07 Apr 2012 23:29:00 CDT

I had this theory on Bisexuality that suited me and couldn’t be disproven, so it stood. In short, I believed it was mostly an act (and before the subject gets too old, let me say that this argument stood because it mostly wasn’t argued (and therefore not disproven)). When I first came into porn everyone asked me if I liked girls or boys or both and I said boys boys boys until I was dry in the throat, and also until they stopped booking me with girls entirely. I’d had a threesome at 18. We sucked at it. The girl kicked the boy out and then I didn’t know what to do with her so I just kinda poked around down there and lent her some spit, marveled at the taste a little. She was pretty though. I can super appreciate pretty.

Do you ever snap your neck back or react with a spontaneously bloody nose when you’re out in th... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: This is really long because I'm bored. Maybe you shouldn't read it. | BLOG Fri, 27 Jan 2012 18:53:00 CST One: Mangos- I love them. I love them in a sick, insidious kind of way. One may think for a moment, don’t worry, it’s fruit, it grows on things, you can pronounce all of the ingredients, of which there are exactly one, and on and on, peppered with additive good terms like fair trade and organic and nectar of the gods. But I can’t dwell on all of the good things mangos can be. I have to focus instead on self-control.

I’m convinced that a small part of my mango obsession is really a subconscious drive to make up for lost time. You see, my mom drank guava juice when I was a child. She loved fucking guava juice. She would get it blended with all kinds of other exotic sounding fruits—guava and kiwi, guava and pineapple, guava and passionfruit (the worst), guava and fucking mango. And guava is a sick and insidious thing on it&r... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Just in case you had nothing else to do on a Sunday | BLOG Sun, 16 Oct 2011 19:46:00 CDT I am stuck inside. I have more than one reason for being here, and granted, with a little applied problem solving I would probably realize how easy my situation would be to resolve, but then I wouldn’t have a blog.

Reason number one for being stuck inside on a beautiful sunny day in California:

I have 5 phone numbers in my entire phone. Of the five contacts, three of them are named Mike. This backs up my long held hypothesis that Mike is the most popular name for people who love naked women and the industries they might find them in. When I was eighteen and working as a house dancer I used to forget names constantly. I still do that, but technology aids me now. Anyhoo, back then, I would ask someone’s name and then forget it before my brain could even register it. I did this because the music was too loud and it was hard to hear over it, and because it... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: the porn picketers | BLOG Sat, 30 Jul 2011 23:31:00 CDT Well I walked around Adultcon today. I wasn’t signing, although I did end up signing things that fans just happened to be carrying in their back pockets, like slicks of my vagina. Small world. I was media. It said so on my little red media wristband that one of the employees strapped to my right wrist with the greatest of care, being sure the make it tight enough that I could never ever slip it off and share it with a fellow wearer. Never ever. I walked around in high heels and eyeliner, of course, because I do porn and these habits will attach themselves to our DNA, but the mic pack sticking out where I maybe should have been wearing a bra really made me feel legitimate. Media. I was an information highway.

And once we got all set up with our wires and our sound checks and the bouncers treating us like we were special, we realized there wasn’t a whole lot to report on. It ... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: The Rise and Fall of PWL | BLOG Tue, 26 Jul 2011 22:37:00 CDT The Internet has brought a change in society unmatched my most modern innovations of our time. It has vastly increased distances and proximities in ways like never before. Social rules and ways of engaging have changed. People have shed their reservations and now feel free to behave with relatively little consequence, for better or worse. This new freedom has created some unlikely adversaries, and even more unlikely heroes.

Donny Long, legal name Donald Carlos Seoane, became active in the adult industry in 2005 as a male performer and it wasn’t long before he’d started conflicts with not one but two of the industry’s most powerful agents, among others. The conflicts escalated to the point that Long developed a website with the specific intent of harassing one of his adversaries online. The original URL was, but eventually grew into a forum dedic... ]]> Kayden Kross Blog: Cooking With Kayden | BLOG Wed, 06 Jul 2011 14:31:00 CDT

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Kayden Kross Blog: A call to arms | BLOG Sun, 03 Jul 2011 17:02:00 CDT There are too many ongoing tragedies. Natural disasters are still knocking things over and invisible gods are still fueling war and Ed Hardy still has retail outlets and Sarah Palin still gets airtime and the earth is still heating up and in a few year’s time your compass is gonna point south and the birds are gonna be really fucking confused.

And I still haven’t done a girl/girl scene with Jesse Jane.

Yes, I’ve done a girl/girl/girl/girl/girl scene with Jesse Jane, and two girl/girl/girl/girl/boy scenes with Jesse Jane, but I’ve never had her to myself. It is unfair, not just to me, but to all of us.

And how has this been allowed to go on, you ask? I just don’t know. Because the fine people over at Digital Playground are on their game. God knows they’re competent. You saw Top Guns. And Body Heat. And Babysitters 2. I know... ]]>